They smile in your face...

All the time they want to take your place, them backstabbers....

A friend, Real Talk, emailed me earlier about another mutual friend, Maneater, who she just found out is a habitual man stealer. Sidebar: Does anyone ever pay attention to those Google Ads on the side? Well I happened to glance over while reading the email, and there was an ad for a few books : 'How to Keep a Man in Love' and something that said 'Do you have backstabbing friends? Take this quiz and find out.' Google is too smart for its own good.

Anywho, Real Talk found out that Maneater has a habit of taking her friend's ex-boyfriends. Now a while back, Maneater gave us a sob story about how she was in love with this man who her friend, Sideline, had previously jumped off. They had a stronger bond than just the jump off sex, but Maneater didn't want to betray Sideline. At the time, it was kinda well known that Sideline was like the neighborhood jump off. JO's don't get to catch feelings, it's a part of the game. So we tried to make Maneater feel better about the situation and help her see that she shouldn't turn away from love because Sideline was just a JO. *Sigh, we're not right for encouraging, but we didn't have the facts* Well, Sideline never saw it like that. Forget the fact that she was a HO, i mean JO, she felt as if she was betrayed so to this day, they don't talk...Although Maneater has the happily ever after with the dude.

Today, several years later, additional light was shed on the situation. This wasn't the first time that Maneater had found her way into the arms of one of her friend's former boos. Hmm, she's a repeat offender. Now I understand (kinda) Sideline's betrayal. True indeed, I may have just been a JO, but...do you prey on other people's men? For some reason, knowing that this wasn't a once in a lifetime thing, I've kinda lost a bit of respect for her. It's like dang, do I have to watch my man around you? Will you pray and pray for our downfall so you can swoop in and pick up the pieces? Why would you prey on your friend's boo anyway? Are you really that desperate or lazy that you can't find or let another man find you?

I'm not sure about the man laws regarding former boos, girlfriends, JOs, whatever...but generally speaking it's like women law to not date your friend's (i'm not talking associate, i mean FRIEND) former boo. In my mind, it has to be a mutual boo, not an 'in my head he was my boo' type of thing. I think women have a hard enough time with men as it is without having to worry about keeping another h@3 off her man. If this code wasn't in place, women would never talk to their friends about drama (which might not be a bad thing, 1 less person in your business) because they'd be worried that the friend is giving shady advice just so they can take your man. Who has time for all that extra worrying?

Am I the only one in favor of the h@3 over bro's rule? Speak on it...