Teaching Dogs new tricks...

"That's why men are called dogs..they have the ability to sniff something and tell when it ain't right"- Flossie (my mom)

This post will be a compilation of convos I've had over the last few days, that I will try to make cohesive in this entry. It may seem random, but hey, that's how I think. Bear with me.

So I was talking to my mother last night. Now, if you know me and think I'm random..I have NOTHING on my mom. When we have our longer than 10 minute conversations, the topics range from news to family to anything else. Case in point, last night she asked me if I'd heard of Big Pun..she'd watched the Rappers Wives show that was on VH1 (?) and thought the story about his wife was so sad. My mom doesn't even listen to rap..but we had an entire discussion about this. It seemingly came from nowhere, but I was just telling her about one of my friends who has tons of drama and I think it's a cry for attention..not help, attention. That's another story for another day....

Anyway, we ended up talking about this upcoming weekend. HR is coming home with me for the first time. My dad's class is having a reunion and my mom thought it was important that we showed our face. I told her I was hesitant about bringing HR around my dad's friends because he's not my husband and I thought it could cause awkwardness. She said 'Well he is your boyfriend, right?'. Pause, 1. I think she missed the point and 2. I guess he is...lol, still weird to say. I don't want these old(er) men and women looking at me with their judging ways, wondering why I'm not married. I'm ok with it, but don't feel like answering questions. Ok, I should get over it, no need to bring him if I'm concerned right? Right..moving on. She then goes on to say, 'well..you were talking about some other guy trying to step in, you've forgotten about him, so he must be'. Well...I tell her that I believe HR must've known something was going on because he stepped up his game. She opines that men are called dogs for a reason- they hunt and chase, they sniff out things and can tell when something is wrong. So, so true.

Often women say that men aren't as smart as we give them credit for. I think that men are a lot smarter than women give them credit for, they just know when to turn on those smarts and when not to. They react based on how they are trained, or their learned behaviors and rewards (Thanks Drea!). According to Steve Harvey (who lately everyone is proclaiming THE relationship guru), women hold all the power. So it seems as if women need to learn how to train their man. Right? Well, if it's that easy, why are there so many unhappy women? Why is it that women have a 'moldable' man, but crave the man that is too far gone cause after all, you can't teach an old dog new tricks. An old dog who over time has been trained by the current/past women to do bad things but gets rewarded. Instead, there is a man in your face who has all (most) of the qualities you've wanted, but they are still not you want. Why do women always want what they can't have? Why did Eve bite the apple? How can this cycle be broken?

Who knows. Thoughts?